Contrary to popular belief, birth can be a calm, peaceful, and loving experience.
But don’t just take my word for it …
I think it’s such a shame that the stories we hear and images we see in the media are of women straining and sweating while their husbands stand by with a look of horror on their faces, not knowing what to do and feeling like they’re in the way.
When I worked with new mums who had recently had their babies, it became evident that if they had a ‘good’ or a ‘straight forward’ birth, they didn’t feel they should talk about it. Their achievement was discounted as pure luck. In the meantime, those who felt they’d had a ‘horrific’ or ‘terrible’ birth were encouraged to share it in every detail. It’s almost like a badge of honour to have had a dreadful birth - a right of passage. Don’t get me wrong, I do think that becoming a mum is definitely a significant transition in any woman’s life, but why should we celebrate negative experiences, rather than positive ones? Wouldn’t it be great if the right of passage to motherhood was a wonderful, positive and empowering experience?
I want to start to redress that balance by showing you that there are many different ways women give birth. Here’s a 10 minute video (only the highlights of course, as birth takes much longer!) of a mum giving birth to her baby. She’s at home in a birthing pool, with her husband and midwife in attendance. I hope you enjoy it.
The Birth of Daisy, a Hypnobirth at home with a birthing pool:
I hope that watching Suzy and Carl not only shows you birth can be a calm and loving experience, but that it’s also very much a team effort, and gets you thinking how you might like your birth to be. When you start to see the different possibilities and are beginning to believe you can influence how your birth pans out, then you’re ready to get started on your journey towards creating the best birth possible, for you, your partner, and your baby. If you like to know what to do next, hit the button below.
Your head affects your birth.
(If you haven’t yet seen my blog post about how our thoughts directly impact our ability to give birth then read it now.)
Our subconscious mind works is constantly taking in, deleting and filing away information, based on what it (you) believes is important. The problem is that it’s overriding desire is to protect. So, when you’re pregnant, your subconscious is on high-alert to gather as much information as possible about birth.
Unfortunately, a lot of the information we see and hear is negative, fuelling the damaging belief that birth is dangerous, scary and painful. We know that fear makes it more likely that you’ll find birth difficult, as it will get in your body’s way. This is why, in pregnancy, it’s so important to replace the dramatised media versions of labour and birth with positivity and confidence building thoughts.
By the time the big day arrives, you feel free from fear and ready to let your body do exactly what it needs to do.
Reading Positive Birth Stories is a great way to do this. Here’s one from a couple I worked with, getting ready to become parents for the first time.